To be a good conversation partner, you should offer up lots of grips that the other person can grab on to

Date created: 2023-03-10

So you should throw in digressions, confessions and bold claims. I like the bold claim strategy just to stir things up and get the discussion going. It doesn’t have to be things that I really believe in!

There’s some recent evidence that what makes conversations pop off is indeed the social equivalent of doorknobs

When done well, both giving and taking create what psychologists call affordances: features of the environment that allow you to do something. Physical affordances are things like stairs and handles and benches. Conversational affordances are things like digressions and confessions and bold claims that beg for a rejoinder.